My 10-year-old daughter was mad Friday. Her younger sister never has to study for spelling. School work is easy for her. If my 10-year-old doesn’t study, she fails. 

I tell my 10-year-old she has different gifts than her sister.

She said, “I hate my gifts.”

She wants her sister’s. Her little sister is also invariably in the center of playground activity while she, the big sister, almost always sits on the sidelines. Her little sister has and will always have more friends. And she is often given cute clothes from friends who have outgrown them.

To my 10-year-old, life isn’t fair.

As the mom, there are times I wish it were more even. I would love my two 10-year-olds to have  best friends, kids who want to hang out with them, kids who ask them to come over.

But I also know they are loved and, most of the time, very happy. God has a plan for their lives that includes this time of growing up.

There’s a verse that has grown very dear to me lately. It is Psalm 105:19. It states, “Until the time that his word came to pass, the word of the Lord tested him.”

The him is Joseph. Joseph had a word on his life. God had a plan for him. This was the word. God was going to use him to save the whole known world from famine, but he needed training.

For 13 years Joseph was trained. He was sold into slavery by his brothers. He served Potipher, ran the man’s entire household. Genesis says the only thing Potipher made decisions about was what he’d eat during the day.

Then, Potipher’s wife lied, and Joseph was sent to prison.

This didn’t stop God’s plan at all. God used it. Joseph ended up being in charge of all the other prisoners, seeing to their needs (interestingly, if Joseph had gotten bitter God wouldn’t have been able to do this).

During these years, God brought the people Joseph needed to meet into his life. God used everything.  It doesn’t matter what messes others throw into our lives. God will use them all for the training we need.

When the time was right, the word on Joseph’s life came to pass.

When I look at my children, I see God’s word on them. Their interactions with others, their experiences are molding them into the people they are meant to be. The same thing goes for me. The same thing goes for you.

Do you remember my little stud horse named Jon? I wrote about him this past summer, how he’d become a stud over the winter.

His training isn’t done yet, but it’s coming along nicely. The other night I watched my husband ride him. Jon didn’t buck once. He walked forward. He listened to the reins. He turned right and left. He was nervous but he didn’t let his fear make him stupid. I’m so proud of him. He’s almost a real horse.

If we remember who is in charge and yield to His guidance He’ll bring the word that is on our lives to pass. Only we can stop it. No one else can.


Absolutely no one.

And thank you so much for reading this column. Thank you for lending me your ear. You all are blessings in my life.

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